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January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10113PattyParticipant
I’m so glad you’re home Brenda.
Hospitals are pretty hard on you when you’re strong and healthy, they’re really bad when you’re sick!January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10114LindaKeymaster
SO GLAD you’re home and recuperating. Thanks for giving me your daughter’s number, it was a relief being able to talk to her.January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10123DreaminghawkModerator
Brenda…….. good to see you back. Just tell your daughter that all your cousins were concerned about you 😉
peaceJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10132
I am new to Saponitown and I’m still reading all the threads. This AM I read this one. I’m so sorry for all the health issues you have had to deal with. I have had quite a range of emotions reading this. Brings up alot of memories for me. My Grandmother was ill with leukemia for about 20 years before it took her life. She had multiple other problems because of it. She also fought diabetes.
Before she got ill she had begun doing our family genealogy. She and my Grandpa took trips all over to get documentation, etc… The last years of her life she had periods of time when she was really weak, I lived next door and would go over after school and help. She would tell me all about the genealogy and have me file letters away and stuff. I was never very interested at the time. She always intended to write a book about the family and publish her findings but Grandpa was very against it. Grandma died in 1978. My Grandpa died in 1992. The whole family has tried to find Grandma’s research all those years. We thought Grandpa destroyed it. My Dad is 76 yrs. old now and not in great health.
(Me, my Dad, Grandpa and his father all have nasty arthritis. Grandpa used to wear a copper bracelet for it and carry a buckeye in his pocket). Anyway, the family talks about Grandma’s research and wishing any of us knew about the family. About 4 years ago, I started doing genealogy in the hopes of finding the Indian our family always heard rumors about, and being able to present it to my Dad while I still could. My Dad owns Grandpa’s house now and he and my Aunts started cleaning it out to remodel last fall. We have all been up there helping. One day when all my Aunt’s and cousins were there going through stuff…my sister was cleaning out the coat closet in the LR and found a big dusty cardboard box. It was all the genealogy, pictures, family bibles, etc…We ALL cried. Of all the antiques (my Grandparents were collectors) and things of value in that house…we all cried over that box. The box was given to me a few months ago to compare to my info, scan the documents and pics and bibles. What a treasure!
My Grandma fought hard all those years with that horrible disease but she continued her search. When I go to the Jackson Co. Genealogy Center I find things that Grandma had written all those years ago and recognize her handwriting.
I think the search was what kept her going through it all. The last 10 months of her life she was in the hospital. She would have people bring her the research and make notes on it. I intend to put all her work into the family book she never got to write. Her legacy to her family. She would be so excited about the way we share info these days on the computer. In her honor and her memory I search and share. Cindy introduced me to Saponitown a couple months ago. Until she Emailed me about the suspected Indian in our family I was totally dead-ended with it. I was busy searching Ireland…I am so grateful to have connected with her and with Saponitown. I still hope to be able to tell my Dad something concrete while I still can (looks like he is having another bout with prostate cancer). A week doesn’t go by that he and my Aunt don’t ask me if I have any new info on the Indian blood in the family. They are all so exited about it. Grandma had told us Cherokee & Blackfoot. In the meantime I’m so grateful for all the work Grandma did and left for us. It would please Grandma to know that 35 years later…someone is interested in what she did.
Your story here brought all that up for me. Know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers also. You have so much wonderful support from the folks here. What a blessing! I hope your recovery is swift and easy. God Bless You.
DebJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10136LindaKeymaster
That was a really great post, Deb. I’m so glad you told us this story. From what Cindy has said, I take it your family in Iowa wasn’t too far from mine in Wisconsin. There are a few other places where we seemed to be one county over, moving halfway cross the continent.
My mom had a picture of my great great grandparents that she had stored in a closet. Somehow it disappeared in a move, and I know that haunting feeling of loss, having something that irreplacable get lost. It would be such a thrill to find it again.January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10173
Glad you found your way to Saponitown. Somewhere here on the forum is a story about my own box that suddenly appeared a year after my mother’s death. It had been posted by her three weeks before her death but I guess my ancesters didn’t think I was ready for it just then so somehow the battle torn box arrived by UPS a year later. The box filled with notes, pictures, a journal, and a lot of records that mother had kept over the years. I reconized the handwritting on the box and had a good cry before opening it.
Mother had been in the hospital with hip surgery. She had been unable to walk for sometime and had put off the surgery til she could stand the pain no more. After her surgery she came home, called everybody she knew and told them how wonderful she felt. She was in no pain and she didn’t know what took her so long to follow through. Two weeks later she was using her walker and had just cleaned up and was heading for bed. She passed daddy who was sitting on the sofa and said,
” Daddy I am going home”. Daddy said he thought he heard her wrong and ask what she said but she just looked at him and said ” Home” . She dropped to the floor and was gone.
I hadn’t done any genealogy in over a year but the day I got the box all the old memories of the days mom and I searched the cemetaries and archives together came flooding back. I have been searching every since.
I might never find all the answers but I have made some wonderful firiends and even found a few cousins I didn’t know exsisted. Mother was adopted at 2 days old and knew nothing of her Perry/Bennett line. A few years ago I found a first cousin on the Perry side that lives today in NM. She provided me with the history of the Perry family and connecting lines. The only line that remains a mystery on her side is the Patterson line. I am still searching for my g-g-grandma Abigail Patterson, d/o Samuel.
So Deb, it may be that your ancesters have lead you here.January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10175
Maybe it was Patterson ancestors. Deb and I must have them. There are buried Pattersons near my ggggrandmother in the same cemetery as my ancestors who are also Deb’s. My Green genealogy shows Patterson as a middle name for some of our Green relatives.
Glad you are feeling better, Brenda. Glad you are back with us.
CindyJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10180
Thanks Cindy, glad to be back.
Abigail Patterson was my g-g-g-grandmother. She was born 1801 in Pa/Va.. daughter of Samuel Patterson. She married John Perry born
1789 in Northumberland Co., PA . They married 1818 Pa. then moved to Cumberland Co. Ohio, then to Washington Co. Ohio where they raised a family and later died. I have pictures of the cemetary where they are laid to rest and a picture of Abigail. I found a first cousin of my mothers a few years back that gave me all kinds of information on the Perry side but the Patterson side is a loss. Never have been able to find a Samuel that has a daughter named Abigail.
BrendaJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10182
Not too terribly far from our people in PA. I checked “The Green Tree” but did not find a Samuel Patterson. However, there is one listed as a lost pioneer at this web address for lost pioneers where several of my (and Deb’s) “lost ancestors” are listed. Many of these people went on to Iowa.
CindyJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10188
I am up to my neck here for the next couple of weeks and I haven’t checked my Email for a couple days. Still hoping you’re feeling better and stronger every day, Brenda. And I do feel VERY led by my ancestors. Sometimes down right poked and prodded! I started this hoping to tread in my Grandma’s footsteps and at this point feel I’ve passed where she stopped now. The whole family keeps saying “Just keep going, Deb, you’ve gotten further than anyone so far!”. I don’t know if that is true but they all feed me info and take late nite phone calls. I definely have a cheering section behind me. Sometimes when I get discouraged about the search, they kinda prode me on. I was so excited to connect with Cindy because it feels like I have a partner heading the same direction. I’ve never really talked to anyone on the computer so Cindy and Saponitown have really been fun for me. I used to go for months without checking my Email and now I check every couple of days.
DebJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10189
Are you talking about Hickory Grove Cemetary? I checked my listings and don’t find any Patterson’s.
DebJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #10195
I thought I remembered some, but maybe I am mixing my cemeteries. There are Pattersons listed on the Jackson County cemetery site in Monmouth who have Pattersons listed.
CindyJanuary 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #12157
I am sechueled to have a fitulia placed in my arm right after the holidays. Because I am dibetic it will take longer to heal. The doctors believe I will be starting dialysis in early summer. My function on both kidney’s are less than 15% and transplant is unlikely with the added medical issues. I am told after dialysis starts will began to feel better because the toxins will be pulled from my body. If that is the case I can’t wait to feel better.
I also would like for your prayers as my eldest daughter was dianosed with the same disease two weeks ago. My youngest daughter is in the middle of being tested and my two boys….well they don’t want to know.
Folks need to be more aware of medical problems in families. I had never heard of “polyscystic kidney disease” before 1972 when I was dianosed. By that time I already had four children and each of them have a 50/50 chance of having this and passing it on. When I researched found that my ggrandpa Johnnie Spencer had died of “Bright’s Disease”…bingo that was the old name for “polyscystic kidney disease.” Had I known would I have had children? I honestly don’t know.January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #12174CoheeLadyParticipant
So sorry to hear about you and your families medical condition. I wll keep you all in my prayers. You questioned whether you would have had children or not, I understand how you feel. I have medical conditions that are hereditary. Like you, I didn’t know prior to having my child. I must admit that I wouldn’t have changed a thing, as we are truly blessed with having such a loving daughter. She doesn’t blame me for passing on the medical conditions to her, simply because they didn’t start with me. I understand the guilt you’re having, I go through that from time to time, but my daughter helps me through that. Funny how we gain strength from those that are so much younger than us.
Take care and please keep us updated.
Deborah “coheelady”January 7, 2004 at 3:28 pm #12196
Thank you for the thoughts and prayers. Haven’t seen you on much and hope all is well with you and yours.
I hear what you are saying…..I too have four wonderful children and they have brought so much meaning to my life. I just hate to see them so through the years of suffering that I have. I pray every day that there will be a breakthrough in kidney research. Perhaps not during my life but maybe that of my children.
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